Today is my anniversary! Yes, on November 4, 2006, my life changed for the better as I married Jason Ford without apprehension and a desire to wed my best friend. We had a whirlwind romance and engagement of literally eight months and took the plunge of “till death do us part” in front of about 150 witnesses on that cool, crisp fall day. We flew off to the Bahamas where we snorkeled (at least Jason did; those lovely Bahamian folks had to rescue me after I panicked), danced, ate good food, rode a motorcycle, relaxed, talked of our future, and created some of the most fun memories.
And then we returned home. The wedding and honeymoon were over. Reality hit us as soon as we began to become acclimated to each other’s personalities, habits, and likes/dislikes as a married couple. The experience was definitely different as I had been used to having my own place, space, and things. Combining our schedules and incomes was an eye opener, as my time and money needed to be accounted for in a different manner. Out of respect, I became more cognizant of time spent away from Jason, being sure to adhere to the need of tending to my new home. We combined our incomes in a joint account for the purpose of addressing household bills as a team. This brings me to my point of the overall lesson learned thus far – the importance of teamwork.
There are probably about 1 million self help books out there regarding marriage right now, but what I’ve learned over time is the importance of applying teamwork at every phase of our marriage. This is applicable to making major decisions, delegating finances, fulfilling household chores/duties, taking on major projects, dealing with stressful events, and even facing conflicting views. The importance of staying on each other’s side even when we didn’t agree or faced grief and loss was crucial for us. How could we win our battles if we didn’t stand with one another? Sometimes we had to work to hash things out into the wee hours of the night, but it was well worth it to be able to come to some type of meeting ground.
“A divided house will not stand…”
Today, you will find Jason and I still hanging out with each other just as much as we did in the beginning. Yes, we’ve evolved, over time, into our almost 40-year old version of ourselves but still love, as a couple, good movies, traveling, and interesting places. We aren’t perfect. But we do love each other and hope to never forget the lesson that keeps us grounded – “you don’t leave your partner behind”. May God bless you on your pursuit of healthy relationships and marriages!
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